As I age I begin to become more of who I am, and not all of that is a good thing. Not to be a Debbie-Downer (which I’m often accused of being), and I have seen growth both spiritually and relationally. But this summer at camp I was shown an example which woke me up and forced me to make a choice, continue as I am, or allow Christ to change me more into His image. This obviously affects many areas of my life, but one specifically would like to share with you.
I love the quote “Discipleship is the engine of the church,” because this is where our heart should be, to disciple others. What drove this point home was a not so pleasant example presented this summer. Personal anecdote moment, you know those girls (usually older & not attractive) who seem so desperate for a man that they give guys the best treatment and give all the girls grief about everything? Well after witnessing one such girl in a leadership position I promised never to be like that! She missed so many discipleship moments and many friendships because of her obsession with the “boys.” And she was constantly calling attention to herself and not looking for ways to serve or help those around her. Not an ideal person for leadership to be sure.
Girls~ Please do not do this!! Call out those who do it, and have a friend promise to call you out when you begin to act this way! (Accountability is great by the way! I’ll probably have a post on that later!)
I was challenged that my desire for guy friends or the desire for a man could interfere with my ability to disciple other girls in my life. I’ve always been friends with guys, but I could see myself this summer treating the guys better -I also saw many missed ministry and discipleship opportunities. This revealed a sin in my heart that I was ashamed to admit, but God drove home his point as he so often does. God calls us “older” women to disciple the younger woman. Obviously I’m only (23-ha), but there are Junior and High School girls in my life that I need to be ministering to & discipling.
Titus 2 1-10 is a great discipleship model regardless of your gender. Take the time to read it and really meditate on how you can become a discipler of those in your church.
1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. 6 Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, 7 in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, 8 sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you. 9 Exhort bondservants to be obedient to their own masters, to be well pleasing in all things, not answering back, 10 not pilfering, but showing all good fidelity, that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior in all things.
Who are you discipling? Who should you be discipling? Ask God to show you who you should be working with and how you can help them grow to be more like Christ!