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Thoughts on {Extroverts and Introverts}

I’ve read a few articles recently about this introvert/extrovert, let’s say, debate. Most articles from the introvert’s perspective, or a “how to” when interacting with a self-proclaimed introvert. But loudly, as extroverts usually do, the responses and rebuttals are quickly making an appearance in social media.

So, why not weigh in, here are a few of my thoughts on this topic.

On the continuum of painfully shy, timid, unable to converse with people to the loud, obnoxious, talk to anyone, I would put myself quite firmly on the extrovert side. I realize this is both a personality trait, and a personal choice.

I do realize that introvert is not synonymous with quiet or shy. Nor should extrovert have the same definition as loud or obnoxious.

There is a certain disdain towards extroverts’ communication styles, with words such as shallow, pithy, empty, meaningless often thrown in as the key adjectives. This may or may not be true for some extroverts, but can I just point out one minor thing? How do you get to know someone without talking? I can hear it already, “Small talk isn’t communication.” False. (insert Dwight’s face) You learn something from every conversation, well you can learn something from every conversation. It just depends if you’re looking. Discussing the seemingly “small things of life” can show priorities, goals, values, as well as provide insight into the person’s way of thinking. Discussing my junior high girls’ favorite pop group or movie can give huge understanding to a group’s dynamics or priorities. You just have to be alert during these “meaningless” conversations to grasp the real meat of the discussion.

Extroverts are often labeled as conversational hogs or attention seekers. But, pause for a moment, someone has to start the conversation. Starting a conversation, even with seemingly “meaningless” topics, is important to relationships. It shows interest, it allows others to give opinions, thoughts on the topic. You don’t normally just jump into a deep conversation with a random person. But how does asking, “Where did you get that scarf” open a conversation? Leads to discussion of places to shop, deals found, favorite items, colors, etc. Bits and pieces of information used to keep the conversation going. Now can you have a friendship with someone and not know their favorite color? Of course. Taking the time to learn about people, to know information, to many, this may seem inconsequential. But I would argue this, spending the time to learn about someone else,  that shows interest, and gives value to that person beyond just a face in the crowd.

I love my generation’s attempt to label everything, but always attempting to be different, unique. We’re programmed with this need to stand out from the crowd.  But in this desperate need to be someone or make something of ourselves, we have lost what it means to be a friend. We network, we use people, we learn what we need to know to get by. Be different, learn someone’s favorite color, ask about the small things in life, not just the obvious or surface”y” topics. Obviously this goes both for introverts, as well as extroverts. But sometimes an extrovert feels rejected or hurt when an introvert does not express any interest in learning about them. Sharing is a natural thing for an extrovert, so introverts can be perceived as rude if this same interest is not returned.

Extroverts may not open up easily. Yes, I hear your thoughts “they’re actually WAY to open” but pause again. Self-proclaimed extrovert moment, we use shallow topics to build up friendships to slowly open up on other more meaningful topics.

Bear in mind, I am speaking in generalities. Don’t be offended, these are just observations and personal feelings.

Introverts claim the corner on self-reflective thought and soul searching. I disagree. As an extrovert, I am often reflecting on my behaviors, words, actions. But some difference may occur in that as I reflect on all that is me, I am also analyzing how this interacts with others. How does it make them feel? Am I coming across rude because I don’t start a conversation? Am I coming across shallow because I compliment their outfit? The pressure to entertain, amuse, keep the conversation going is something an extrovert knows well.

I’ll review a conversation multiple times in my head to see where it went wrong, or when the “I’m overwhelmed” face appeared. I would bet that many self-proclaimed extroverts also have these same experiences.

Of course we are human, and all very selfish in our interactions. Selfishness can be seen all across this spectrum. So learn about people different from you, have the pithy conversations, engage in the deep discussions, remember, this life is not all about you.

So these are a few of a self-proclaimed extrovert’s thoughts. Take them as you will. I’m interested to know your thoughts on this topic.

 

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Monday::Inspiration

I love CyberMonday, you know the Monday after Black Friday? The day where most stores offer free shipping or online deals. I just get drawn in! Probably because I’m working all weekend so Cyber Monday is my own personal Christmas! Do you enjoy shopping? I sure do! I love buying just the right gift for someone, the perfect item to make them smile. 

Ah {Sigh} CyberMonday is a joy to me.

The CyberMonday bug has bitten me again…I’ve found that every Monday I am either shopping, planning trips, or job searching…Why does Monday cause this craziness?

Since I’ve been done with school and entered the “real” world (since of course college is not real…) Monday has become this day that is often spent dreaming and planning.

{I look up new non-profit groups to be a part of

{I find new causes to be passionate about:: Ask me about Human Trafficking, Abortion, or numerous other health care related issues

{I plan trips. Two Mondays ago I bought a ticket to PA and a few hours later a ticket to Texas. My Kayak alert is set for both Seattle, San Diego, and San Fran right now.

{I shop. I order books, kitchen oddities, clothes, phone cases (that’s my weakness!) and I could go on…but I shop online…quite a bit.

Maybe I just want Monday’s to be NEW.

Fresh.

A fresh start to the week?

Yes that’s it.

Something New to celebrate the start of a New week.

A Fresh [passion] or {Inspiration} for the week ahead.

O monday…

Well I better get to researching (aka shopping)

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::That Moment

::That dreadful moment, the terrifying, adrenaline rushing moment when your Patient goes unresponsive.

::That heart-dropping, stressful moment when you open your e-mail to a read of an error that occurred on your watch

::That awful moment when your brain is so foggy you don’t know what to do, you flounder as you search for the next step

All moments that leave lasting memories.

But we grow & learn from these moments. I’ve been told by many people that starting a new job is stressful. The first year as an RN is a year of learning. But being told something & experiencing it for yourself are two very different things.

The stress will continue but it cannot weigh you down. Confidence is gained from intense situations done right, but just as important, situations gone wrong can grow us, stretch us, and leave lasting impacts on our lives.

As I reach the end of my first year as an RN, I look back & see how far I have come. Situations I never thought I could handle I can. Things I used to balk at have become second nature. But there is much more to go. Lessons to be learned, tasks to be accomplished, knowledge to be gained, all come from experiences, both good & bad.

::That wonderful, confidence building moment when you catch a new heart rhythm

::That tearful, tender moment when  you really connect with a patient & are able to encourage them

::That awesome, inspiring moment when you realize…I am a Nurse.

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Do you ever hear a phrase that just jumps out at you? A powerful combination of together that strung together express your vision or feeling.

Today just such a phrase jumped out at me.

::communicate hope::

am I daily communicating hope to those around me?

How does one communicate hope?

To understand this I think of love hopes all things from 1 Corinthians 13:7

hope:: does not allow the failure to be final

hope:: allows us to look forward, to get up & to move on

Hope is a powerful emotion, an outlook on life, a glimpse at a better tomorrow.

What are you hopeful for?

Why do you have hope?

Who are you communicating this valuable lesson to?

 

Hope Communicates 

Hope Communicates

Failure is not the end

Hope Communicates

Get up, Move on

Hope Communicates

There is a better future

 

The sorrows of life, they

drag us down

The storms, the trials,

all surround us

 

We Fall, We Fail

But we Rise up Again

 

Hope Communicates

Failure is Not the end

 

 

Communicate Hope

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{Trust}

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“Sarah, do you Trust Me?”

“Of course I do” I hurried to reassure Him

The blunt response came loud & clear,

{Then Live Like It}

OUCH

Do I live like I Trust? What does a life of Trust look like?

If I trust a chair do I only partially sit down? Nope, I plop right down & put my whole weight on it. If I am seeking advice from a trusted friend, do I only tell them half of the story? No, I confide in them all the details, trusting that they will give me the best advice.

Do I truly Trust God? Do I allow Him to lead me?

Do I spend my time worrying & fearing the future?

{Trust} 

Not an easy lesson to learn, not an easy lesson to practice.

Trust:: practice it daily

{Live Like It} 

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Travel Abroad: Poland

One year ago yesterday I embarked on an overseas adventure that tested my attitude, challenged my strength, & broadened my world view. And today, I sit here in the Warsaw airport awaiting the next adventure.

There is something in my heart that longs to travel.

Hence the year of {wanderlust}

I wish I had some profound wisdom or insight on why travel is exciting, but the only thing I can come up with is

::Adventure:: 

Adventure of the unknown

Sitting at the feet of missionaries and other, listening to the talk of travels, adventures, and trials, I knew that I wanted to join this band of courageous people. Always seeking to understand, looking at other cultures, not to criticize, but to learn & understand. 

I don’t have a great revelation or shocking thoughts on Poland.

The food was phenomenal, the culture interesting, the historical sites moving, and of course I loved the family I stayed with.

What did I learn: Faith keeps the Family strong in Poland. The Polish people work hard, as a general rule they do not go into debt & live within their means. Often a young married couple will live with family for several years until able to afford to build a house for themselves.

Overall a fabulous & lovely trip. Minimal jet lag, wonderful touristy moments combined with more traditional experiences, shopping, building friendships, and another stamp in my Passport.

At Krakowski Rynek

At Krakowski Rynek

 

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{Silence}

The day begins with noise. Trilling of the alarm clock or the more gentle morning song of train singing about ways to die. Quick iPhone check. Read, mentally respond, drift away for a few more moments of anxious sleep. The bed shakes, the phone is trilling again. Quick e-mail check, and the day begins.

Another e-mail check, and flip on the iPad for some Netflix viewing, dashing around, laundry, cleaning, the long trial of choosing an outfit, often this scene is accompanied by the strains of my favorite Pandora (or my new favorite Songza) station.

Into the car, flip the radio on, hum along, check my phone, does anyone need me?

Rushing into the store while simultaneously checking my phone (no one loves me today do they?), hum along to the obnoxious store music, o what’s the my phone is ringing? Answer it, solve the problems of the world, continue shopping. Chatting with people in line, complimenting the cashier on their outfit, signing up for useless e-mail coupons.

Back to the car, flip on the radio, disgust with the trash, insert Le Mis CD & blast it. Check my phone, 5 new text messages, answer them & end up getting honked at. Start singing with the sounds of Angry Men. Respond to texts.

…on and on this day could go…

Always connected, always filled with noise, dashing about with the soundtrack of madness in the background.

{Silence}

The sound of silence is begging to be heard. The noise must pause.

{Silence}

Listen to the silence. Allow the noise to cease. Turn off the background music

{Face the Silence} 

shush

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Thankful

Today my heart has been burdened by thankfulness.

This (unfortunately) has been lacking in my life. I have not had a thankful heart.

But today, I awoke after a glorious sleep, the kind that makes your arm go numb & you can’t remember the year kind of sleep. Last night I had cried out to the Lord begging for a night of sleep, I could feel my emotions  & thinking drifting out of control & I knew a good night’s sleep could cure it.

And this morning–pure and joyful thankfulness.

Now should I still have the same thankfulness bubbling out of me even on those days/nights when I do not get the amount of sleep I feel I deserve? Yes, yes I should…but I don’t.

Thankfulness is an attitude we make up our mind to have about the situations, the circumstances that arise in our daily life.

{Paul admonishes the churches in many of his letters to always be thankful.

{David openly praises & thanks the Lord in his many Psalms

{Job refused to deny God when everything was stripped from him

Thankfulness is an attitude that we must cultivate in our lives. 

 

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HappiNess

The secret to happiness is not in doing what one likes to do, but in liking what one has to do

Do you live life loving what you’re doing? Happiness is a choice!

I find myself focused on the things I hate, which then automatically brings me down.

What wonderful things do you get to be a part of? Whose lives are you influencing? What friends are you making?

Positive motivation goes further than negative.

Good feelings trump bad thoughts.

Being happy is a choice we have to make every day.

We’re only on the Earth for a short time. Don’t waste it wishing for happiness.

 

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{Thankful}

 

Do I believe that there is always something to be thankful for?

Then why don’t I live like it?

I am thankful for

{my family}

{my friends} even though they are spread across the country

{my church}

{my job} even though it’s not a nursing job, I am still able to work

{my health}

[God’s Salvation]

[Grace]

[Hope]

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